SECOND IN A SERIES: EASY ANSWERS TO TOUGH QUESTIONS ABOUT ELDERCARE
In the first article, we listed some of the fundamental tough questions about eldercare. We discussed some possible causes of Mom/Dad/Wife/Husband’s resistance to getting outside help with eldercare. In this article we discuss some ways that can help convince Mom/Dad/Wife/Husband to accept and cooperate with outside help for eldercare.
To overcome the pride that is often a major reason a senior resists outside help with eldercare, try:
To overcome resistance caused by fear of having a stranger in their home, try:
To overcome resistance to spending money for outside help with elder care, try:
To help the parent or other spouse to understand that it is the children or spouse who are also seeking help for themselves through outside help with eldercare, try:
Overcoming resistance to outside help with eldercare can be a process over time, requiring patience and compassion. Overcoming resistance also usually requires firmness and perseverance. The goal is to start getting a little help sooner, at a lower level of help, rather than waiting for a crisis to occur. Injury or illness can quickly change a senior’s physical and cognitive abilities. Illness, injury, and the needs of other family members can quickly limit an adult child’s or spouses ability and availability to providing help.
An earlier, planned, gradual introduction of outside help is much easier for everyone than is a hurried, forced start, when a higher level of help is necessary.
In the next article I will address the third tough question about eldercare.
Greg Dodd, CSA
Greg is a Certified Senior Advisor (CSA) and can be found in the Find CSAs section of the Society of Certified Senior Advisors® website (www.csa.us).
Greg and his wife, Katie, own a franchise of Seniors Helping Seniors® services in Dallas, Texas. Their website is http://www.seniorcaredallasnorth.com/Home.html and their phone number is 214-478-4198.